What is good or bad parenting when dealing with sex and teenagers?

I would like some logical, rational and sensible ways to deal with the issues that deal with teenagers and sex/dating, this includes, discussion, contraception, young love, giving your children mutual respect etc. How would you like your parents to act in regards to these matters? If they acted a certain way would you be more or less likely to be interested in sex? And if you are a parent, especially with an older child, how did you deal with these situations when they came up?What is good or bad parenting when dealing with sex and teenagers?here are great websites:

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ckpuppersWhat is good or bad parenting when dealing with sex and teenagers?
This is a really good question....teenagers: and all the emotions and parenting strategies to try to reach out to teens--is a topic worth researching--for anyone--regardless of what the behavior of the teen is!

Perhaps its helpful to "lean" on your religious views/values and morals.

There are the physical affects and the emotional feelings that are also important to consider and help teens understand what is involved. Obviously, there are risks involved with risky decisions that teens are making these days....but keep in mind: To change behavior--there needs to be consequences. You can teach a child many social skills: making good sound decisions, independent living skills, healthy relationships, boundaries, etc.

Please know that it may be helpful to give the Boys Town National Hotline a call at 1-800-448-3000. We have counselors available 24/7 and we talk to kids/teens and parents all the time about various issues. You may also find our websites helpful too....take care and lets us know how you are doing....when you get the chance....Counselor KJWhat is good or bad parenting when dealing with sex and teenagers?I think the best way to be is understanding. Obviously you know it will happen sooner or later. The best thing to do is educate teenagers and try to make contraception available to them without embarassing them. Sometimes teenagers don't use contraception due to the embarassment. Try to make them feel as comfortable as possible talking about the subject and let them know you will be there if they ever need to talk. Good luck %26amp; hope this helps.
I have always been very open with my children about love and sex.

I answered their questions when they asked but in a true and simple way according to their age.



Being interested in sex is a physical drive from within.I've worked with mentally challenged kids who are teens. These kids were so challenged that they would never learn to speak or follow directions.

Those kids masturbated.



Recently I bought my 20 yr old daughters condoms to take with them to college and my 16 yr old and i talk openly about sex.What is good or bad parenting when dealing with sex and teenagers?just tell it like it is.

if he's a boy, then u may consider telling him that if he gets a girl pregnant, you'll cut off his p*n*s.

but you may also just tell him that its not worth it.

really, one night of "fun" isnt worth months of dealing with the girls moodswings, cravings, and pain!

nor is it worth being a father at such a young age



if its a girl, i have an easy method

show her the show 16 and pregnant.

show her how much all those girls regret it, and hows its ruining their lives

that should do it (......or, NOT do it would be the proper phrase..)What is good or bad parenting when dealing with sex and teenagers?
im 14 nd if i want my mom 2 say something, just say it flat out, teens r gonna do it, trust me , i no, nd parents just treat them like adults, let them handle if they dont ask for help, but defiently respect their desicions, but make it clear that they will NOT get a abortion, or b raisin grand kids
I am not at that stage yet but I have twin boys who are 8 months old, I'd like to deal with it how my mum and dad did with me which is by being very open about sexual issues within the family and not treat it too taboo. My parents were open to me about it from the age of about 11 or 12 and they made clear that sex is not a dirty or disgusting subject and that it is a loving act and a natural part of life. They explained that sometimes people have sexual urges when they shouldn't and that it's nothing to be ashamed of when you do but that it's very important to talk to them before acting on it. With this fact highlighted by them I spoke to my father when I came to almost losing my virginity. He told me that if we were both consenting and both ready then it was a decision only we could make, he made sure he explained all about protecting yourself and he spoke to me about how to know if your ready and highlighted the importance of being ready for it and not jumping in at the deep end. He said the decision was with me and the girl but said about it being one of the most emotional experiences and not to waste the losing of my virginity until I knew it would be special.



I then reviewed my relationship at the time and came to the conclusion that it was driven by lust and that we didn't know each other that well. I did not lose my virginity to that girl but followed my dads advise and waited until I was ready and I have never regretted that decision. I think if my dad had of forbidden me to do it I would have gone ahead and done it his open approach made me able to talk to him and make the best decision based on the advice he gave me. I plan to be open with my boys when they grow up and make sure they know im approachable and that sex is not a dirty or taboo subject.What is good or bad parenting when dealing with sex and teenagers?
Here's what we do in my family. It may or may not be compatible with your goals, but I'll give it a shot:



When the kids are little, give them some age-appropriate books on human reproduction and development. When they're 12, explain sex and pregnancy to them. It is essential that they understand the connection between having sex and getting pregnant by the time they start High School.



There's also a "family contract" that some parents now use. This is the boys' version:



1. It is my responsibility to use condoms when having sex. A girl who says she's on the pill or has an I.U.D. may not be telling the truth.



2. If I get a girl pregnant, my parents will NOT raise the child for me.



3. If I get a girl pregnant, we cannot live under the same roof unless we are legally married first.



4. I will be responsible for making child support payments, which means I will have to get a job.



5. If the mother of my child refuses to take care of it, and I choose to have the child live with me, then I will be responsible for raising the child. I will be obliged to do the same household duties as my siblings.



6. I will have to find someone to look after the child while I am working or going to school.



7. If I neglect my child, my parents will go to court and have my parental rights terminated so the child can be placed for adoption.



The family writes this contract, and has the teenager sign it in the presence of older relatives, who sign it as witnesses. Your teen will say "come on, get real, that's lame" but this is your life too that will be effected if the teen has a child.



ALWAYS assume that your children are having sex. Kids are sexually active at younger ages than before.