How should a husband feel when his wife rollers her eyes about sex?

What should an unemployed man who already feels like a failure in life, and who never gets sex in his marriage, how should he feel when his wife rolls her eyes after he suggests they have sex tonight? Isn't her lack of interest in sex a deal breaker in their marriage? Isn't that a sign of disrespect when she rolls her eyes?How should a husband feel when his wife rollers her eyes about sex?The best thing to do is to discuss it with your wife. You'll get a straight answer that way.How should a husband feel when his wife rollers her eyes about sex?
If you currently have financial issues, you are not working your wife is probably pissed about it. Its unfortunate that when something hits the fan you understand that your second half don't care about you but about her/his situation. Maybe that is what causing a rolling eyes. Did she do it before you were unemployed? Instead of cheering you up, she just puts you down and of course it is a marriage breaker. You married to a person with whom you decided to spend the rest of your life and of course you would want an affection and love from this person no matter what happens unless you are not giving this affection and love back, then it is a different story. Maybe you should ask her why she does it and explain how it makes you feel. By her reaction and explanation, if such will be given, you would be able to see where she stands and how she cares about your marriage. Good luck.How should a husband feel when his wife rollers her eyes about sex?I feel for you for I have a good idea as to what you are going through. It is 1 of the most disheartening things a wife can do to her husband and if she is not careful or conscious of what she is doing she will ultimately drive a wedge between her and her husband. Each time she does little things like this she causes her own husbands heart to harden toward her a little bit more each time. It is the opposite act of love. It is a form of rebellion against her own spouse and a sign of disrespect toward marriage or even her lack of appreciation for being married!
Sex is very much tied to a woman's emotions. If she is not happy with you in a major area, she will not want sex. She rolls her eyes, because you still ask for sex when you don't have a job. She feels wide open, not taken care of, and used. I'm not sure of your situation, but once you get a job, or start actively seeking one and making it known that you want to take care of your house, her desire for you is likely to increase.How should a husband feel when his wife rollers her eyes about sex?I think the best thing here is communication. It sounds to me like there is a bigger issue that needs to be resolved. I think the best thing to do is set time to actually talk to each other about your problems and insecurities. Honosty is the key. Complaining and acting rude to eachother is not going to help your marriage, talking and listening to eachother will bring you all more together. It lightens the heart and she will feel more close to you. Improving your marriage through communication and romance will have the sex back in the relationship. Obviously you love her enough to get married, I think you both deserve happiness even if you all have to see a couples therapist. A marriage constantly needs work through communication and action.



Being a woman I can honostly say that we are mental beings. We stress over everything and it is hard to let go. We need to feel loved, cherished, relaxed. Communication will help save your marriage there is no doubt but I think it will also help to do the little things. Help her with the house, the kids, what ever you can to take the ease off her mind. Have a date night where you all can spend quality time together and bring back the romance. Make her feel like the woman she felt when you first wooed her into marrying you. Set the mood before even coming on to her. Asking for sex doesn't get us in the mood. Everyone needs to feel special and loved.



You asked if it is a deal breaker? No. Not unless you all are wanting to end your marriage. An affair or seperation would just make things worse. Fixing the problem is what needs to be done not making it worse. I wish you all the best.How should a husband feel when his wife rollers her eyes about sex?
It seems to me that you should be talking with her about this 'rolling' of her eyes ....which she might not even realise she is doing it, but is a sign of (at least) disinterest.



It seems as though there is a BIG famine in your neighbourhood.



'Gets sex' ~ is a term which implies that 'she provides' while 'you take' ....take what's on offer! And that seemingly nothing is on offer or available to anyone in a sterile sea of a none-communication.



Woody Allen used to say that, ''A marriage should be like a shark, always moving, always searching and always feeding. What we have here is a dead shark''

('sharks' never stop moving even when they are supposedly sleeping)

which about sums up what you describe as 'your relationship'.





If you don't talk with her about What, How or Why you are feeling the way that you feel, then that shark is going to simply sink ....and rot.



I wish you luck.

Sash.
Your wife has the solid upper hand in the power struggle in your marriage.

You have to accept the consequences and start setting out you conditions and limits for staying married.

You need to take control of your own life.

You have quite a bit of work to do on yourself then you need to start asking for changes and making it clear what the consequences will be if change doesn't occur.How should a husband feel when his wife rollers her eyes about sex?
Marriage is a long journey, there are many up and down, you are in one of this down time where marriage can easily get broken. At certain time of your relationship, I'm sure that sex was good and you had good time, then do not break your marriage for a bump in the road, just remember first the good time. With that said, if you are in the early stage of marriage and no children then .... you know my answer otherwise work it out, good luck.
He should feel terribly hurt, and tell her how he feels.



Yes, her rolling her eyes is at his request, and her general lack of interest would be a deal breaker for me. Yes, rolling ones eyes is universally considered a sign of disrespect.



So what exactly do you plan to do about it? Don't let this fester any further.
I'm sorry that you are having a hard time of thing's.now to have you explained to me.what is going on?now i see.now my wife says that if a woman rolls her eyes back she not in love with you know more sorry to tell you that but that's the way i see it to.some time's woman thinks that men think about sex all the time and we don't it's what a marred people do to show we love one other and if she can not show this then she has some one on the side.my own wife says that it not right to keep her self to her self.ever thing is in portion in a marriage but the most in portion is sex.why sex because it keeps the marriage together because that shows love between two people.so i would set her down and ask her if she stell loves you that's the only way i know how to fine out is ask strait out.that's the best advice i can give.your friend fred
Well she probably is frustrated. You have no job and are probably acting depressed, therefore you probably aren't giving it your all in bed. In addition, you think it is a deal breaker that she doesn't have sex with you. Get a job, get off your butt, and start romancing your wife.
Maybe she is rolling her eyes at you because instead of doing something romantic to get her in the mood, you are asking her for sex, therefore planning for it. I would roll my eyes at my husband to if he asked me for sex rather than made romantic overturns.
it means your doing something wrong there buddy! your not working means you do everything else. clean the house, laundry, garbage, clean bathroom, bedroom, vacuum, cook i mean everything. this way your look sexy. don't beg for sex is a turn off. tell her sweet things, but not sexual. lead her to come on to you. be Rico suave.lol lol make sure she doesn't have anything to do but take a bubble bath. once she is relax she will open like an umbrella.
that just means she doesnt want to. as a woman if she doent want to and u do just let days pass andshe'll come on to u believe me. when i statred to go out with my boyfriend and sex came up he told me it was my decision and we could wait as long a i wanted that really turned me on and i was in a rush to screww him!
you all need marriage counceling to see what your problems are. thats if you want to stay together.
Isn't your not being a provider a deal breaker to her?



Are you even attempting to find a job or are you just collecting UE benefits and sitting at home doing nothing while she still works AND cooks, cleans and does laundry?
maybe she doesnt like how you guys have sex? she probaly doesnt think its that good.



why dont you talk to her about it and tell her you can do some things to try to spice it up and make the sex more good
So your marriage makes you feel a failure. Your wife could give a crap about you. You are not getting any sex. You try talking to her about it and she disregards your feelings.



Hmm why are you still married?
he should tie her to the bed and show her what hes made of even if she screams. she actually really likes it wants to stay tied up for convenience. so when ever your turned on you no where to go.
Personally, I use an iron, not rollers.
I have glanced over these responses you have gotten, just out of curiosity. I am obviously a woman and YES.. that was disrespectful!

These are not the best of times economically and many men cannot help being out of work right now. Unless a husband is abusive, a wife should support her husband, period. Too many women use sex as a tool to get what they want. And it chaps my rump!

I have heard a lot of women talk about how unfeeling their husbands are and how they wish they would show emotion. And then they act this way.

It is a fact that in a marriage, sex is a part of it. It can be a wonderful experience for both, and should be. When one rolls their eyes or starts to act like it is a chore to be performed, that is a problem and it is a the problem of the one doing the eye rolling.

How demeaning! I will bet you when she wants something that you can give her she is all over you and I cannot stand that crap either.

Sex is not a bargaining chip nor a tool to use. It is a part of a loving relationship. If she is feeling bad and has an issue with that, then she should say so. But the fact thee is, as a wife, she could make an attempt and if she continues to feel bad once the attempt is made...say so. I have felt really bad before, but my husband's arms around me always make me feel better.

The fact you have to ask her tells me she has some issues anyway. And you should not allow this to demean you. This is her problem, not yours. She is trying to make it your problem.She should be glad she has a husband that is having all these other problems and yet still reaches out to her.

I am going to leave it there as this is obviously a pet peeve of mine. I am just so tired of women acting this way about sex, and yet wanting to be treated equal in all areas. Acting like that is degrading to women and no woman should defend it.