If you don't talk to your kids you might think that you are keeping them safe and ignorant but since they know it's out there and the information is everywhere and you ignore it what they are learning from you is that sex is something to be secretive about. You are teaching your kids how to walk past the elephant in the middle of the room and pretend very well that it's not there, and believe me, when you do want to talk about it with them, or other important things like drugs etc, you will have taught them so well to pretend that when they tell you every thing's great and they are still virgins you'll believe it.What are your thoughts on beginning sex education at a much younger age?
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What are your thoughts on beginning sex education at a much younger age?good point. i agree tell them everythingI had my first sex ed class in 5th grade. I think that's pretty much young enough.
Kids are having sex younger than they used to these days, though.What are your thoughts on beginning sex education at a much younger age?i think honesty is best. also it teaches them they can trust us to tell them the truth. i dont think it has to be in depth but honest and age appropriate is good.What are your thoughts on beginning sex education at a much younger age?
I think you have to be honest with kids from the get go. However, be discreet about how you explain that it came from their mother's ahem, yeah, that. And when they ask how babies are made? hmmmm.....go into the sperm egg thing, but don't get graphic about that either, you know, like 'mommy and daddy ******** and then you were born. Just be discreet, too much information can sometimes be harmful. Be honest, but don't give them any ideas. Kids act on what parents say....so if you go into detail, you might just find your kid humping the neighbor kid, stranger things have happened
Yes definitely. Better hearing it from responsible people than on the playground.What are your thoughts on beginning sex education at a much younger age?
I think that sex education is too early. Children are given too much information too young. I have worked in sexual health and contraception clinics and realised that too much too young is an encouragement. Kids are having sex at 11 and 12 year old now because they are having it rammed down tehre necks at school. Let kids be kids the big bad world is out there waiting for them anyway so lets encourage childhood o last a bit longer.
5th graders are 10 and 11 i think and i think it would b better to have sex ed at a younger age because people need to be informed. i dont do things unless i know why i should do them so people like me might start having sex at younger ages because they dont know about the risks
from the moment they are old enough to understand the better off they will be,but a parents job is to never stop reminding them of that education and what can happen if they don't take heed to it!
I try to be as honest as possible according to their age and understanding. I try to keep it simple but with little children you do not actually talk about the sexual act. My daughter asked how she got in my belly ( she is three) and I said me and daddy made you. You need a lady and a man to make a baby. I said that she started as an egg and something that looks like a tadpole. She laughed about being an egg. I do not think it causes a problem you need to be matter of fact so when they get older then they are not mystified by the whole thing. I do not want my children listening to myths and legends about sex such as kissing can get you pregnant. I want them to be able to ask and then make informed choices.
I look at it this way. People have been teaching their kids younger and younger as time passes, and ive seen younger and younger mothers as time goes. If my children have a question I try and answer them as honestly as I can but mabey were teaching our kids where babies come from without teaching them the morales that go along with that information. when you talk to them about sex, also talk to them about when is the right time ti have sex. and how hard it is to raise a baby when your not finanially ready, or emotionally ready. Ive just noticed that, you turn on these talk shows and it shows 12 year olds having sex. yikes, thats scary.
5th graders in the US are 8-9 years old.
You can start when kids are very young but remember your answer needs to match their level of understanding. A three year old asking where babies come from should get a different answer then a 8 year old becasue of the difference in knowledge and understand of the body.
I think children should start being told as soon as they seem to be able to understand. You don't have to go into details until later.They need to understand what is good touching and what is bad touching. There are adults and older children who prey on young children and children need to learn how to identify and avoid being alone with these people.
My husband and I always felt it should begin early, at a very young age you teach them to respect their own bodies, and they have a right not to be touched, hugged, kissed or whatever, then we respected their choice not give me ma a kiss as she was leaving, sometimes embarrassing, but they should be able to have a say with out being rude. We had age appropriate talks with them when they started asking questions, we answered as honestly as we could without being too graphic, As they got into 5th and 6th grade 11-12 years of age, we started talking to them about reputations and the importance of being proud of your choices, at 12-13 we taught abstinence, but also pushed birth control if they did have sex! Our daughter had graduated from high school and was in college when she came to us for help with birth control, not an easy conversation, but her and her bf had been dating a little over year, they did get married after college and now have 2 little boys, her first was born when she was 25, our son is 21 and in college, so far so good with him also! My brother and his wife have 4 kids, they taught nothing but abstinence, 3 out of 4 were pregnant or had a girl pregnant by 16, the youngest was 13. In a perfect world abstinence would be great! But we have to be realistic too!
I believe sex should be discuss based upon the children's age. I do agree that sex ed should be taught because apparently....some kids do not understand how their reproductive systems work. There are girls getting pregnant at 12 and 13 yrs of age because of lack of education.
People believe if you discuss this issue that it only stirs up curiosity but...it's already there. Kids are starting puberty at 11-12 yrs old and wondering why their bodies are doing this...so, lets educate them!!!
5th graders are usually 10-11 yrs old her in the US
Children at young ages don't know about sex because they don't need to know.
Most children don't ever ask questions about actual sex until they are older, around 10 maybe.
The "hard" questions that children ask at young ages is about reproduction because they see things like babies and pregnant women, etc. So, all they need an answer for is reproduction.
If a kid asks where babies come from, most children are satisfied with the answer "you came from mommy's tummy". If they ask follow-up questions, like "how did I get out?" or "how did I get in?" then simple answers are necessary.
Until a child actually asks about the act of sex itself and it is clear they are NOT just asking about reproduction, then it is safe to tell them about sex.
I think parents should address 'sex ed' with their children openly and honestly once they start asking questions. My daughter is 4 and has already asked us where babies come from and what the difference between girls and boys are. We answered her in age-appropriate terms and allegories. Obviously when she gets older, the explanations will become more advanced and specific. Parents that are evasive and embarrassed about discussing sex with their kids will end up with kids that are evasive and embarrassed about it later on in life (i.e. teen hood and beyond). As unpleasant as the subject is, I want my child to be comfortable coming to me with questions and problems first, rather than taking a sampling of opinions of her peers as facts. I want her to have faith that I will be open and honest with her concerns and questions. That kind of behavior has to be instilled from the earliest age, not just when they become sexually active. It is ultimately parents' responsibility to educate their children about their world, not just leave it up to a teacher or school system.
My mom started teaching me as soon as I started asking; which would be about 3 or 4. She told it like it is, but in simple enough terms for my understanding. I turned out perfectly fine. I have friends who ask "how do you pee with a tampon in? Do you remove it?" THey dont understand the female body and they are 18 and female. It is sad.
Because we homeschool and I therefore teach my children what we believe they should know at an appropriate time, we do begin educating them earlier. However, with the oldest being 8, none of them have asked for a literal "how" they got into my uterus. They have all seen line drawn pictures of the female and male reproductive systems. They all know something of periods and bleeding after birth. Since I've been pregnant for 4 of the last 9 years they probably know more of the after birth part. LOL But they do know about the whole reproductive part of it, they just haven't came out and asked about the sex act itself yet. When our oldest was 4 he did already know that Daddy had been loving Mommy again and that is why I was pregnant. When I showed them an 8-wk ultrasound pic he said, "Oh, I see you've been loving Mom again, huh Dad?" It was very funny! But from that I know that he knows we "do" something to create the baby. Maybe because they have common sense they have figured out to some extent (since they have seen line drawings) that the shapes fit together somehow. They do know they aren't supposed to touch in these areas until marriage and then only with their spouse, so perhaps they know something of how it happens just from being taught what they have so far.
Another thing our children completely understand is childbirth. We family birth, so they have viewed birth firsthand and my 4yo wants to be a midwife because of it. I don't even use a midwife and I birth in a hospital with a male doctor, she just has heard me talk of midwives and has decided that is what she wants to be. My 8yo son was almost 7 when his baby brother was born. He told me when he was crowning. None of them have ever had any strange reactions to birth, been in any way disturbed by it, or anything weird. They just figure it is a normal part of life. They think it's kind of strange that other kids don't know how babies get out of mom's tummy! But don't worry, since they are homeschooled they won't go telling your youngster the truth.
My son asked me where babies come from when he was six.
I told him the absolute truth.
When I'd finished I said "did you understand that?" he said "Yes".
I said, "Now do you want to tell me what you've learned?" He said "No (blushing)".
He got to nineteen before he did the deed.
I think honesty is the only way to go and if it scares the cr*p out of them...good!
I'm 13 and i got "educated" at grade 5 and i think that's just right defiantly dong any earlier in grade 5 i remember lauging when we saw our own privates and we just make laugh and think its gross and in grade five the most you think about boys is if you should pick them in gym class because they can score.
Children today have discusting and perverted language! All because one kid was taught about it and now the whole world is discusting. We learnt it in grade 5 I think that was way too young.
I think children should learn at their own pace so when questions are asked they should be answered properly and their age taken into account on how much information is given children should be allowed their childhood and these bounderies will be set in place naturally without it been forced upon them when they are not ready and has far as sex education goes in school my children did it in their last year at juniors and I wasn't against it but I still think it's to young and it's only a lesson where kids think it's more amusing than educational.
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