A girl I'm in love with wants to be friends with benefits... but not in a relationship, what do I do?

So I've been friend with this girl for 2 and a half years, we had a fling about a month ago and I loved it, things were great, but it was just a fling, very little emotional connection, until one night when she told me she loved me, and I felt the same way.



Soon after however I found out about her doing some things I didn't approve of, when I told her I didn't like it and wanted her to stop, she got upset with me, and decided that she just wanted to be friends, even though she knows how I feel about her and when staying at her best friends house ( a guy who shes known for about 5 years) they were sleeping in the same bed, though she swears nothing was happening between them.



I was just getting over the fact that she only wanted to be friends with me when she tells me today that she wants to be friends with benefits, and when i told her that I was ok with that but I was still going to be looking for a girlfriend because I really need someone in my life right now, she said that she doesn't really know what she wants, but she said if I waited there would probably be something in the future. I have no idea what I should do here, I really want a relationship, but I am very attached to this girl.



And just to shed further light on the situation I am 17 and she is 20, she lives near me now but moves away in 2 weeks, and currently I plan on moving in with her as friends this summer, another one of our friends is going to live with us too.



Any advice on my hectic love live would be much appreciated.A girl I'm in love with wants to be friends with benefits... but not in a relationship, what do I do?Dude... say no. Stand your ground. Say I will stay your friend, but I cannot just take being your fwb. It's all or nothing... from sexual standpoint of course. You can still be friends with her, but try to restrain yourself.A girl I'm in love with wants to be friends with benefits... but not in a relationship, what do I do?
You don't need advice you need luck.A girl I'm in love with wants to be friends with benefits... but not in a relationship, what do I do?a lot of times girls have problems not associating sex and relationships, if she wants to be FwB then she will probably later want to be in a serious relationship with you.
avoid her your feelings shouldnt get involved anymore itll make it worseA girl I'm in love with wants to be friends with benefits... but not in a relationship, what do I do?friends with benefits is wrong and will never end up right because this is what most on society calls cheating and there is no way around the fact that it was never meant to be... sorry 'bout itA girl I'm in love with wants to be friends with benefits... but not in a relationship, what do I do?
In my opinion: LEAVE HER.



Go find someone that deserves you, and doesn't make you wait and just toys around with you. You deserve way better.
maybe when you move a little away from her she'll miss you n understand that you were some1 really important to her and she'll be back.A girl I'm in love with wants to be friends with benefits... but not in a relationship, what do I do?
She's jerking you around hombre.
I suggest you get over her. she doesnt know what she wants. If you keep it up and push for more you might both get hurt.
Don't wait around on this b*** dude you deserve better, she just wants the biggest c**k she can find, she don't give a damn about you, trust me I know PLENTY of these kinda girls as friends, and they sit there and tell me bout all the guys like you who they're bout to cut off because he has feelings.....I bite my tongue....
Sex complicates things. If your friends with benefits than you are going to draw more emotions to this relationship and can really screw things up. Either be friends or be together but do not be in between. This is a black and white area and there is no shade of gray. Set up boundaries with each-other. Sleeping in the same bed when you are dating someone in unacceptable on any terms.
LEAVE HER.



Whenever a girl says you should wait for her, but she wants friends with benefits... is just using you.



Think about it. If she KNOWS you don't want to be just friends, she's going to make it seem like she WANTS a relationship just to get you to sleep with her, just like how a stereotypical guy thinks!



If it was really meant to be, she would just date you right now! But she's not. Think about it. If you really liked a girl, you wouldn't ask her to wait for you. You'd just date her! She's making excuses.



Don't wait for this girl! It's a trick.

You can't be friends with this girl! You're too emotionally involved. You have to cut her off completely!



She will not change her ways. Trust me! A girl who just wants friends with benefits is just that! I know because I have a similar friend like this girl you talk of and she tells me of ALL her cheating and sexual escapades and how guys like you end up being used.



You're attached because you slept with her. This attachment will go away with time if you let it. Leave her and find a girl who wants a relationship. You'll be glad you did and a lot happier.