How do I convince myself to fall for my admire and will I ever love him as much as he loves me?

I have met this guy about about a month ago and the first night he was interested in me but I want his flat mate who takes advantage of me and not meaning to,i've known him for nearly 5months now. His lituanian. We had sex twise and spent time together lots of times and our friendship was good but he asks me for loans and offers me pleasure which I love but feel ashamed about.One night he admited that I had either fallen inlove with me or that he was inlove with me but this was nealy 4months and a half ago before he changed flats.He'd give me that sexy look and smile and feed me sometimes with his money and we kissed alot more than we had pleasure,so even the days without pleasure we kissed but when I ask him he says he loves me soo much but as a friend and confessed that he has been infatuating about a girl he met in a niteclub with his friend who he never touched but recently misses her and wants to be with her.He started being with her 4/6 weeks after we had sex and I want him...?How do I convince myself to fall for my admire and will I ever love him as much as he loves me?This post is really confusing. I'm not sure whether most of this post is about the guy you met, or his flatmate who takes advantage of you. This sure sounds like you are a real doormat, any way, and as though you have no self respect and no standards, other than to feel ashamed about it but you keep doing it anyway. So, but you act like a doormat, and you have someone else whom you treat like a doormat, is that it?How do I convince myself to fall for my admire and will I ever love him as much as he loves me?this guys doesnt sound like he loves you at all!!!!! Get a grip and dump him!!!How do I convince myself to fall for my admire and will I ever love him as much as he loves me?You can't convince yourself to fall for someone. You love who you love. The guy you had sex with doesn't sound like a good guy. Maybe you should just take a break from him, and start thinking about what to do.How do I convince myself to fall for my admire and will I ever love him as much as he loves me?
I think this guy sounds no good... If he just leaves you for someone else that not love.... So a way to start to admire your admirer... 1st Only dwell on the good things.

2nd Look at reasons he could make you happy Vs. The other guy.

Last just follow your heart do what you think is right you dont have to be with someone if you dont love them. No matter how much they love you.