- ok so i told my bf james i loved him about 2 months ago...i didn't get a response which hurt me...but he told me the reson was because he dont want to hurt me by lieing..i bring it up every now and again basically getting my hopes up for the same ol answer.."no"..well not no more like " i care about you alot""i dont want to say it and not mean it and hurt you" and " i need some reassurancee it is love what im feeling"....he also claims that his feelings grow stronger everyday and i tell him things like maybe you care about me but thats it maybe you are at this point that your feelings are what they are and no more...but of course he says " i think i will be able to say it" so he tells me he thinks ill be the one he says it too.
i should let you guys know to that before me he was in a 4 year relationshipip that he tells me was horrible...all i know is her cheating was involved..disrespect..liess..and jsut fighting was involved..i ask him why he did it for 4 years...he says it wasnt all bad only the end part...he thinks they were only together because they were sue to it..they were living in the same appt and basically thought well if we break up what am i going to do....i understand that...he did tell her he loves her...after she said it to him.. but he tells me that he dont think it was love.
im telling you guys this becasue is this a reason maybe for him not to say it...some of this could be very emotionally scaring to him.:(..but also he tells me " the possibity of of breaking up someday in the future is possible"..this scares me...even tho i know this is true..you never know...basically i feel like hes saying enjoy it while were together..we dont want to break up not yet anyways.
- i have a feeling he does love me...he does anything for me..cares for me..we talk about everything...we are not only bf and gf we are friends..which is so amazing..basically he treats me like he loves me..but only the "i love you" is missing..i remember one night he told me " jsut because i dont say it dont mean i dont feel it"...he really confuses me on this issue...so im looking for some advice opinions..
thank you so muchDoes he love me or not.?...?Ok so here it is rite.
- he was in a relationship for 4 years where he was in love well he said to her that he was in love. That means a big thing. he is hurt from the last relationship where he thought he was in love but wasn't. so he now has t be sure that when he says it to you he is in love and can be sure that he means it. he's been burnt you know, it hurts so much when you tell someone you love them but they end up throwing it back at you. you have to be sure of these things. i have been with my bf for 2 years now an i only told him i loved him a year ago. i felt very strongly for him but i had to be sure it was love first cus i came out of a very bad relationship before him where i had told the guy i loved him but he ended up cheating on me, which broke my heart. you have to be sure because love isn't a game or a toy, it means lot to people, well most people.
All he is doing is getting his feelings sorted and building his confidence up to say it. It is a big step. i bet when you told him you loved him you were nervous a bit.
as for all the other comments he makes about possibly breaking up an what not is just his insecurities coming through. remember men hurt like us women they just show it in different ways.
I hope this helps a bit xDoes he love me or not.?...?
Are you his 1st gf after the breakup? Rebound relationships fail a high percentage of the time because the person doesn't want to be lonely. It takes about a year for most people to realize what type of person they should be with. You may be that person but he may not know it yet. Don't push, but don't let it drag out too long either.
Does he love me or not.?...?Love is as love does. If his actions say yes then be content with that for now. Some people have trouble saying it. I bet he will say it, but only on his terms. I would respect him for that.Does he love me or not.?...?
your really lucky i think!!
how many guys out there say those 3 words and dont mean them they still treat their partner like crap!! yours clearly is really good to you. im sure he will say it when he is ready...
you know that old saying actions speak louder than words your case proves it.
be happy with him and dont stress out about 3 little words esp when he is showing you everyday he loves you! Does he love me or not.?...?
he obviously is crazy about you! ASK HIM OUT! ^__^Does he love me or not.?...?
Don't push him to say it anymore, he isn't ready and who knows when he will be. He probably does love you but he isn't In love with you, there is a huge difference. i know its hard when your at a different pace than he is, but as you said he did just come out of a relationship so he will try desperately not to make the same mistakes. He is with you so you know he cares for you. Maybe don't tell him so much that you love him, it probably makes him feel bad as it does you. Time will tell, but i will say try not to get to deep into him, i know its hard but i don't want you to fall hard if the worst happens. take care of yourself and all the best of luck to you.
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