Sunday, February 5, 2012

Partners past does it matter or should it? reason to break up or thats stupid?

i am with this woman and planning to get married but i cant seem to be able to get over her past and the fact she had sexual partners and premiscuous relationships! is she a slut and i should think twice of getting married to her? i know she loves and i mean the world to her cos i love her too! i also have apst past one night stands ans so on, why cant i accept her past especially since she accepts mine?Partners past does it matter or should it? reason to break up or thats stupid?If you love her then that shouldn't be a problem. Accept her past and for what she is. You are no saint either.Partners past does it matter or should it? reason to break up or thats stupid?
It is selfish of you to not accept aspects of her past, especially since you admit to having your own not-so-stellar history.Partners past does it matter or should it? reason to break up or thats stupid?future comes so that we move on and leave our past behind us, your supose to forget the past and look through the future, she acsepted your past its your tern now, trust me life is too short if you got the person you love and get the love back never give up on it for old stupid things that happend befor she even knows that you are there.

so tack my advice and just be togather and leave a happy life.Partners past does it matter or should it? reason to break up or thats stupid?
if you love her , then her past must not worry you.wait for a while before you guys get married.then you see.love her for her and now. she makes you happy .write down what she does to make you happy.Partners past does it matter or should it? reason to break up or thats stupid?To some extent - your girlfriend's past sexual relationships are really none of your business. Other than using it to determine that she does not have any transmittable diseases - why do you really care?



Are you thinking she will cheat? If so do you have any other evidence?



Are you thinking she has had better lovers and you don't measure up?



Are you afraid of a commitment and need a convenient excuse?



Would you really feel differently if she had had no one before you?



Do you have some misguided notion that she is "used" goods?



Determine why you care and discuss your fears with her. My general observation is that women are looking for love not sex - so add that to your thinking when considering past relationships.Partners past does it matter or should it? reason to break up or thats stupid?
How can you expect her to not have a life before you and expect that its okay that you did before her? If you loved her well you gotta love everything about her including her past. As long as she isn't bringing her past into the relationship, should it really matter. Why are you so stuck on the person she was then instead of the one you love now?
You love her so much that you want to marry her, so why let her past bother you. Yeah she may have made a few mistakes in her past and i'm sure now that she looks back on them, she wishes she didn't. however, she can't change her past and unless she made these mistakes while she was with you it wouldn't be fair. I'm sure she feels bad enough about them without her BF considering finishing with her over it. She was honest enough to tell you about her past so you should respect that. She could have just pretended that she was an angel, however, it appears that she has more respect for you than to do that. Would it have been better if she lied? I think not! How can she proceed to the future if she is prejudice by her past??

If you love her so much, you shouldn't even be considering 'thinking twice' about marrying her, especially as you have also admitted that your past isn't exactly angelic!!

You love each other............ That's the most important thing!!

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