Are there any tips for staying relaxed before sex?

Me and my gf have tried to have sex a couple months ago but i felt like i was too nervous and had trouble getting hard in bed. I have no trouble when we are fooling around on the couch or in the car though. We are planning to have sex on friday on my couch since it is more comfortable for us and that is the only time we are ever alone. Any tips on preventing this nervousness from happening again?Are there any tips for staying relaxed before sex?yeah: fool around and don't plan so much. If you want to get into it and dont want to be nervous then dont make it a big thing like its a test or something. Fool around and have fun with it, sex is serious in that it can end up making babies but it isnt something that you need to be all serious about.

Do fun stuff that makes you horny, add lots and lots of foreplay (tease her while her clothes are on, run your hands all around her body, kiss all down her body while still avoiding sensitive areas like the **** or pussy, give her a nice full body massage if you guys are in the mood for one, bite her a bit if she likes it, breath hot air in her ear, be kinda rough if she likes that, and once you start getting further into foreplay start to tease right around the sensitive areas and make her beg for it and still dont give her it. i.e. kissing around her pussy but not eating her out or anything, or maybe just plant one on there and move on, and rub around it without actually getting it. teasing drives girls nuts). Just have fun with it and dont make sex the objective, because if you guys are in the mood for sex then you'll do it and if you're not it wont be any good.

%26amp; the first time you do it and really have a ***** you'll go really fast so just get used to the idea and dont think its a personal flaw. lasting longer comes with time. In my experience the best thing that worked for me to start lasting longer was multiple rounds in as little time as possible.



%26amp; a couple pointers for later, when you'll have a chance to last longer: breathing more deaply, like you're supposed to do in running to get good oxygen flow, will help you last longer rather than shallow breaths you get when you're excited, %26amp; not tensing your muscles in that area will also help a lot. Just using those 2 things I can last as long as I want (which usually ends up being about 45 minutes, but has lasted over 2 hours before and i can go in 15 if i'm just goin for a quicky). another thing that will help is to stop and pull out and do a little foreplay for a while if you're right about to go but wanna last.



Oooh and my reccomended condom brand is durex. until 2 weeks ago i was using trojan, and then i tried durex for their pleasure pack and it is amazing. They can take more of a beating (where trojan will break if it gets stretched too much during sex, durex will hold. the two downsides to this are if you mess up on putting a condom on and end up getting an air bubble in there, the durexes will pop, and if you dont leave room like you're supposed to and it ends up being like one of the cases where a trojan breaks then itll hurt your dick cuz it wont give. besides those two thigns, durex rocks. Get the pleasure pack. the thin ones rock, the warming ones rock, the flavored ones smell good but taste bag, the studded isnt especially effective, and the studded and ribbed ones rock. i think i'm missin one but oh well.



oh yeah, and once you can concentrate on doing stuff right make sure to learn to rub the skin on that is above your dick rub her clit while you're screwing, itll be the best thing you'll learn to do in sexAre there any tips for staying relaxed before sex?
Go slow, take your time. Perhaps work in foreplay and oral sex. Do not get so hung up about ejaculating. You can do it more than once in a night and most young men can keep an erection even after they orgasm. So take it easy. Make sure you allow your self to take a couple deep breaths now and again.



Performance anxiety usually goes away with experience. So if you follow my advice above, it should eventually get easier and easier to have sex the more you do it. If not, you may have a problem that is more related to anticipatory anxiety. A type of performance anxiety that varies in that you anticipate failure and ruin your ability to have sex. Anxiety produces stress hormones, which kill sex function. So work on reducing that and you should get better over time.



PS Some men find that having a drink or two before sex helps them relax. Some do not. If you have sex drunk, you will not last as long. But the main reason to avoid it is because you can become dependent on the alcohol in order to calm you down enough to have sex.Are there any tips for staying relaxed before sex?one way not to get nervous your first time is to not plan it! if you do that is all you will think about and then when the time comes you will be too siked out to get it up. if this is the person you want to share this experience with than just relax! the other person is probably feeling te same way as you.
Do not drink shots before having sex. This can make you last less longer.



You should start with DEEP breaths. It will help you relax, and it will help you last longer, giving your girlfriend the pleasure she wants. Just try and relax on making the experience fun, and try not to worry too much about performance.Are there any tips for staying relaxed before sex?Most of your problem is planning for sex. I have always found it to be better if it is spontaneous. I realize sometimes that is hard to do, but your not having much luck the way you are doing it now.Are there any tips for staying relaxed before sex?
Don't put so much pressure on yourself by planning this whole "Fri we will HAVE SEX!!!!!" thing. Get together, snuggle, make out, if it happens it happens and if not no big deal. You'll do it another time.
drink a few shots. it also helps if u cant get an erection if u go down on her. itll turn u on hearing her and ull be a bit less nervousAre there any tips for staying relaxed before sex?
use Viagra so you can get a ***** then do it in bed.
make the forplay really intense and you will get caught up in thinking how hot she is instead of omg hear it comes
put on some music and have her massage you or something